One time, when I was a little girl, I asked my mom to tell me about my bad traits. She very reluctantly replied, “Well, sometimes, you’re a little bit clumsy.” Some things never change.

But, most things can change.

My coworker introduced me to a new blog, and I’m totally hooked. The premise is that a group of guys created a Mastermind Group (Google it. It’s cool.), held each other accountable to working toward achieving their goals, and lived to blog about it. Their posts are inspiring, full of advice, and reminders to envision what we want out of life and pursue that vision.

One of their posts encourages readers to honestly assess where they are in life: the good, the bad, the ugly. They write:

What would you change about your actions if you could? If you knew without a doubt that you could stick to it, what new behavior would you adopt? What could you start or stop doing tomorrow that would make your life unquestionably better by this time next year?

If you are particularly brave, ask someone close to you whom you trust to tell you the truth and share one habit they would give you for your birthday if they could. Solicit multiple suggestions.

So here it is: the good, the bad, and the ugly of Ju (at least the way I see it…):

  • As my mother knew so many years ago, I’m a bit clumsy, mostly because I have a horrible habit of not paying attention.
  • I asked Russell to tell me what habit or behavior he would give me for Christmas and he said the meanest thing possible: Stop sleeping so much. (Well, maybe it would have been meaner if he told me to stop being so addicted to coffee. That’s not happening. Period.)
  • I’m sad that this is true, but I’m kinda flaky. I have a hard time saying no to things but an easy time not acting on the things I say yes to. My actions need to match my words and commitments.
  • I’m empathetic to a fault. I could be face to face with a murder and say, “Well, maybe he had a bad childhood, and that’s not really his fault.” But, I’m not sure this is something that I want to change.
  • I’m motivated to do what makes me happy – but a little directionless about what that is exactly.
  • I’m not easily satisfied. I want to enjoy the journey more, instead of focusing solely on the goal; be able to identify the good, without dwelling on the perfect.
  • I am easily entertained – as long as I don’t have to rely on myself for said entertainment. I want to be more comfortable just being.
  • I talk in my sleep. I think a trained professional is needed for that one.
  • I’m a little too materialistic. I would love to be content with living rather than accumulating.

The bloggers close their post with this:

  1. Write down all the things you could change to make your life better.
  2. Pick one.
  3. Take the smallest possible step towards that change. Today.

My small step for the day…. I’m going to attempt a two for one: Tonight, I’m going to cook a meal (an action usually reserved for the weekends!) because cooking makes me happy – and accomplishing it will make me less flakey!

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